Quora问答：如何不去嫉妒比你更优秀成功的同龄人？

1.You have ZERO idea what their personal lives are actually like, or if their outward appearance of success is total bullshit.

你其实根本不清楚那些人的私人生活是怎么样的，你也不清楚他们成功的那张外皮其实就是个P。

2.Stop focusing outward, focus inward. A preoccupation with the success of others is taking time away from tending your own internal garden.

别总向着外面看了，多关注下你的内里。念念不忘他人的成功只会占用你打理你的内心花园的时间。

3.Believing in common measures of success (money, position, family) is believing in a ready-made lunch box of meaning that society is opening up and shoving down your throat. WHO CARES. Figure out what success is for yourself and then just focus on pursuing that.

认可那些通俗的成功标准（钱、职位、家庭）其实相当于认可社会预先定做的午餐盒，你就那样打开来然后就吞了下去。谁在意那些东西呢？想一想成功对你自己来说意味着什么，然后专注于追求你自己的成功。

4.You are in your twenties, so be prepared to witness some epic personal collapses of those whom you are currently envious of.

你现在才二十多呢，等着看那些你现在很嫉妒的人在之后会遭遇的宏伟的巨大的失败吧。

5.You can't do anything besides what you can do. If you're giving it your all and staying focused on your values, then your life is progressing exactly as it should be. Did you hear that? EXACTLY AS IT SHOULD BE.

你不可能做你力所能及之外的事情。如果你付出的足够多而且专注于你自己的价值观，你的人生会渐渐朝它应该去的方向迈进。你听明白了吗？会完全按照它应该去的方向。

6.When you have an episode of crippling self-doubt, picture each doubt as a single sheet of paper. Then crunch all of them together and throw them into the toilet of your mind. now angrily kick-flush that toilet with your foot.

当你自我怀疑并深受其害的时候，把每一个怀疑都想象成一张纸。然后把它们咔嚓擦揉在一起，扔进你大脑里的那个马桶内。现在用你的脚奋力一踹，把它们都冲下去。

7.Actively work to express gratitude for what you do have every morning. The happiest people I know are full of gratitude, and they are profoundly in touch with their innate talents.

每天清晨都主动地对你所有用的表示感恩。我认识的最快乐的人都是充满感恩的人，而且他们都万分珍视自己所拥有的禀赋。

8.Before you read number nine, think of at least one person who thinks you're awesome. Try to think of yourself as that person does.

当你在读第九条之前，回想一下有哪个人认为你非常棒的，至少想出一个。然后以那个人的视角来看你自己。

9.Isn't the universe so vast, so deep, so incredibly amazing? Who could possibly worry about a thirty two hundred dollar difference in salary when there are stars supernova-ing right this very minute?

宇宙不是如此之广，如此之深，如此之美妙的吗？当此时此刻的每一秒钟都有那么多超新星爆发，谁还可能在意三千两百美元收入上的差异呢？

10.It's a marathon, not a sprint. near the finish line, you'll realize you've only been racing against yourself.

这是一场马拉松比赛，不是一次冲刺短跑。当你靠近终点线的时候，你终将明白，其实你只是在和你自己赛跑。

配图 by  Marta Colomer